Tips for New Grandparents: Supporting Your Growing Family
Becoming a grandparent is an exciting time filled with love and anticipation. As you welcome your new grandchild into the world, you're likely eager to offer your support to the new parents. But figuring out how to navigate this new role can bring on some uncertainty, especially if it's been a while since you've cared for a newborn.
In a past blog, Navigating Grandparent Expectations, we looked at tips for new parents to best work with their own parents as a united front when a new baby joins the family. In this blog, grandparents-to-be can find some tips for ways to be supportive and helpful as a new grandbaby enters the world.
As a postpartum doula, I've had the privilege of witnessing the beautiful dynamics between grandparents and their new grandchildren. Here are some practical tips to help you be the most helpful and supportive grandparent you can be:
Be There Emotionally: Your adult child is now navigating the world of parenthood, and they may need your emotional support more than ever. Listen to their concerns, offer words of encouragement, and let them know you're there for them no matter what. Be mindful that they may just need a safe space to vent on hard days, rather than needing advice, or a “fix” for whatever frustrations they’re sharing.
Respect Their Space: While your help is undoubtedly appreciated, it's essential to respect the new parents' boundaries. Ask them how you can best support them without overstepping, and be mindful of their parenting decisions.
Pitch In with Chores: With a new baby in the house, household chores can quickly pile up. Offer to lend a hand with cooking, cleaning, laundry, or grocery shopping. Even small gestures can make a big difference and help lighten the load for the new parents.
Help with Practical Tasks: From changing diapers to soothing a fussy baby, your experience as a parent can be incredibly valuable. Offer to babysit, help with feeding, or simply be there to lend a hand whenever needed. Again, be mindful of the new parents’ choices and priorities, and remember that many safety recommendations and common practices have changed in recent years. Don’t be afraid to ask for clarification on how the parents would like certain things to be done .
Encourage Self-Care: Parenthood can be exhausting, and it's crucial for new parents to care for themselves, too. Encourage them to take breaks, rest when they can, and prioritize their well-being. Offer to hold the baby while they nap, shower, take a walk, or find ways to feel refreshed and rested.
Stay Flexible: Life with a new baby is unpredictable, and plans often change at the last minute. Be flexible and adaptable to the new parents' needs and schedules, and be willing to lend a hand whenever you can.
Respect Their Parenting Choices: Every parent has their own unique parenting style, and it's essential to respect their choices. Avoid offering unsolicited advice or criticism, and instead, offer your support and encouragement.
Enjoy Quality Time: Above all, cherish the time you spend with your grandchild. Whether it's cuddling, playing, or simply being present, enjoy the opportunity to bond and create lasting memories together.
Becoming a grandparent is a wonderful experience, and you can support your growing family and make a meaningful difference in the lives of your loved ones. So embrace your new role with enthusiasm and love, and enjoy the experience ahead!
About the Author: Kathleen Robbins, St. Louis Postpartum Doula
Kathleen Robbins is a postpartum doula and Certified Lactation Counselor based in St. Louis, Missouri. Through her work with growing families, Kathleen is honored to get to work alongside many fantastic grandparents as they are offering support and sharing their love with their new grandbaby. To explore how postpartum doula support could benefit your whole family, reach out today. Kathleen works virtually with families in any location, and in-person with those in the St. Louis area.
